Resources
This is your orientation zone — for subs, switches, and kink-curious minds alike. Here you'll find curated links and guides across five core pillars: leather, gear, smoking, bondage, and neurodivergent life. Learn the rules before you beg to break them.
🖤 Leather & Lifestyle
- BLUF (Breeches and Leather Uniform Fanclub)
- Empire City MC – NYC-based leather club
- International Mr. Leather – IML info and events
- NCSF (National Coalition for Sexual Freedom)
- Leatherati – Events, culture, and legacy
- The Leather Journal
🛠 Gear & Fetish Retailers
- Mr. S Leather – San Francisco-based legend
- Fort Troff – Toys, gear, and filthy tools
- The Boneyard – Kink-forward essentials
🧪 Kink Tests & Discovery
- BDSM Test – Explore your kink profile
💨 Smoking & Power Play
- r/smokers – Fetish appreciation threads
- Smoking Fetish Forum – Community-driven
- Cigar Chat – Culture and gear
⛓ Bondage & Restraints
- Rope Bondage 101 – Beginner to intermediate
- Bondage Project – Creative inspiration + technique
- Kink Academy – Video-based kink education
🔗 Gay Dom/Sub Resources
Curious about Dominance and submission between men? Whether you're an eager pup, a hungry switch, or a developing Dom looking for structure and connection — these resources explore the emotional, erotic, and ritual power of gay D/s dynamics.
- FetLife – Community, events, and groups focused on power exchange
- r/gaybdsm – Discussion, advice, and stories
- Lustery D/s Series – Real couples in consensual dynamics
- Malevolent Mastery – Protocol, ritual, and erotic domination blog
🧠 ADHD & Neurodivergence
- ADDitude Magazine – Tools and lived experience
- How to ADHD – Jessica McCabe’s channel & community
- CHADD – National resource center